October is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. I have never miscarried so I can only imagine the pain and utter devastation it must cause. I do however know many people (friends, as well as clients) who have had a miscarriage, some early and some late into their pregnancy. For those of you who have experienced the same, my heart honestly goes out to you.
I started writing this 3 part series as a guide to those who have had a miscarriage. There’s so much you can do nutritionally to help you heal and move forward, and there are many factors that are often overlooked. Initially, my post started with words of encouragement about how to be strong and how to heal and recover from a miscarriage, however, once I began it quickly became clear that it was so much more than that.
“The loss of hopes and dreams for you and me.”
I’ve been reading through so many of your stories on social media and my overwhelming feeling was that it’s ok not to be strong. We’re often told as women that we can do and be anything, however during something like this it’s just as important to let your emotions out. Be ‘weak’ so to speak – share your stories and your pain, as I often find this to be more healing then ‘being strong’. Cry and grieve and scream and shout – do whatever you need to do to heal. The loss of a baby is often so much more than that, it’s the loss of plans made and hopes and dreams for the future. Today may be the day your baby was due or the day or anniversary that you experienced loss. Honour and share your feelings. You may never forget, but hopefully, in time, you will be able to move on.
Remember that you are not alone. If you want to share your stories with me, I want to hear them. I want to help. I can’t promise that food will take away your pain nor can it make you feel better. What it can do however is help you to recover nutritionally and get your body ready for another pregnancy, if that’s what you want. What I’m trying to say is that when you’re ready, whenever that may be, I’m here to help. In the meantime, rest, heal and look after yourself.